Think back to your childhood neighbors.
Do you remember who your neighbors were when you were growing up?
I think we can all remember the neighbors we didn’t like so much as well as the ones we did. Great neighbors to me as a child meant great friends.
If you were like me you were always outside running around with other kids, having the time of your life.
Moving to a different neighborhood was stressful and sad. The only thing that mattered was having other kids to play with.
Not only were you possibly leaving friends and neighbors behind, but what if there were no kids in your new neighborhood?
The only thing that mattered was having other kids to play with.
That was so exciting and fun to be literally surrounded by friends and people that you cared about and that cared about you.
Why don’t we feel that same excitement as adults?
How NOT to be great neighbors
This post isn’t about how to be a bad neighbor. It is about how not to be great neighbors.
We live in a great neighborhood with great neighbors.
Over the past year, a few new families have moved onto our street. They all have kids that are around the same age as my daughter.
She plays outside with them with the usual rules of being in sight and where she can hear me.
It is so fun to have these kids around!
While my daughter was building these great friendships, I was just waving from across the street to the other parents.
Sure, we would say hi and maybe have small talk, but that was the deepest our connections went.
Very recently the introductions and conversations began amongst the parents.
I can’t believe it took me so long…
Want great neighbors? Start by being one.
Phone numbers have been exchanged. Now if a child is at a neighbor’s house playing, it is not a problem if they need to be located to come home. Just text!
This neighborhood has always felt safe, but now it feels more secure.
If someone needs a favor, we feel like we can ask without shame or shyness getting in the way.
Need to run a quick errand? Sure, so-and-so’s mom can watch your child until you return!
These aren’t favors as much as friendly, helpful neighbors doing the same things you would do for them.
I am finally starting to feel like I live in a community instead of a neighborhood, and I hope everyone who reads this is just as blessed!